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Phone etiquette

Poll #34231 Grr, not NOW

When the phone rings, do you feel obligated to answer it?

Yes, unless I'm really involved in something really very important.
If I'm relatively unbusy, then sure.
Only if I'm in the mood to chat.
Never, I screen all my calls.


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May. 16th, 2002 06:02 am (UTC)
See, cuz I used to feel like if it rang, I had to answer it. But lately I've been thinking, man, I have an answering machine! If it's something important, say so, and I'll call you back or pick up or something. Am I being reasonable, or rude, do you think? And I have Caller ID, so I'm doing this to my friends and stuff . . .
May. 16th, 2002 06:08 am (UTC)
Perfectly acceptable...especially if you're, you know, irey...
May. 16th, 2002 06:08 am (UTC)
My opinion: A phonecall is an invasion into your home (however friendly or well-intended or benign). It's an interruption. Which is okay! I'm just saying. It's someone asking you for your time, and you ultimately have the right to accept or decline, and it's perfectly polite either way. It's like, if someone said to you, "I'd like to come over at 8pm tonight to discuss something with you for five minutes," you'd certainly have the right to say, no, I'm sorry, I'm busy. Or whatever. So it's interesting that, to some, a phonecall, which wasn't even agreed upon beforehand, must be accepted, or you're being rude. It's certainly not rude for the person to call, but by the same token, it's not all rude for you not to accept their call. Man, I wrote enough to sound like I care about this a whole lot, which I really don't.

(P.S. Call me!)
May. 16th, 2002 06:12 am (UTC)
this directed towards me -->
Yes, exactly, this everything I've been thinking recently.

Only you know what sucks? The hypocrite in me: when I call Mitch and he doesn't answer, I get REALLY, REALLY perturbed. The second time, anyway. Ah well. It's all a learning process. I'll get better eventually.
May. 16th, 2002 10:31 am (UTC)
Yeah, I agree, and this concern is getting more common. Take email for instance. People tend to get bent out of shape if you don't respond quickly, based on the fact that it got into your inbox immediately after they sent it. But look at the mail system it replaced. Even if you take a day to think about a response to an email, you've gained quite a bit of speed. And I know some people who have had big problems with LiveJournal, worrying about whether it was bad for them in terms of the way they deal with other people... As far as I'm concerned, these things are all tools. Use them for what you want to use them for. Nobody should feel like they are being controlled by the tools they use to communicate, get things done, make life easier, whatever.
May. 16th, 2002 07:40 am (UTC)
hmm, I don't know, maybe this will just be proof of my desperation, but unless I'm getting laid or in the shower, I'm pretty much dropping everything to grab the phone. Maybe it has to do with the fact that I fucking HATE it when I know I have to talk to a machine before my friends decide to pick it up, it's like I can hear my little voice booming into their room, "Hey, Jordan! I know you're home, pick up the damn phone, will ya? Christ. Don't make me talk to this thing. I mean, are you afraid of bill collectors or what? I just wanna know if--" (beep) So annoying!

I think it also has to do with the fact that a lot of my friends refuse to leave messages so if I don't pick up I just won't know that they called. I guess if I had caller ID things would be different.
May. 16th, 2002 08:04 am (UTC)
I'm lucky because if I'm home then I'm getting laid.
May. 16th, 2002 08:24 am (UTC)
Caller ID, baby. I'm all about it. I hated not having it while I was in college, because then I was somewhat popular and had lots of friends who would actually call me. These days, I seriously go weeks without getting a call. Oh well.
May. 16th, 2002 10:35 pm (UTC)
Along these lines, I was just thinking about how dumb people still are about answering machines. I mean, they've been around for thirty years or so, right, almost everyone has experienced one end of one.

But I still get messages...from my friends, who should know better...that neglect to include any pertinent information. I.E., who is calling, why they need to talk to me, and when they can be reached. I hate this message, and I get it all the time:

"hey, what's up? Call me."

Well, I would, Fuckwad, if I knew who you were and why it's important for me to spend my time on you.

Of course, I'm a pretty cranky gal.
May. 17th, 2002 07:33 am (UTC)
My grandma still gets real nervous. And acts all formal, even though it's only ever us will hear it. She treats it like a letter -- at the end she says "love, Grandma."
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