Hot Dips (littlewashu) wrote,
Hot Dips
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Chivalry

So I was leaving work yesterday, and a man held the door for me. And it got me to thinking about how most men do that for women: hold doors, let them out of the elevators first, little stuff like that. I never knew that most men did that, until very recently, say the last year or so.

Because when you're in elementary school, little boys don't do that for little girls. And then when you're in high school, you're the same girl to their boy, only older. And most college guys wouldn't do that, and when they did, I just assumed it was because they wanted to get laid. Only since I've been a member of the Real World have I been able to appreciate modern chivalry.

And I like it a lot. You may think that that's selfish and biased, but come on now, opening doors for myself all the time really wouldn't ruin my day. It's just nice, the little gestures. I like that women and men have roles. I don't think we ALWAYS have to fit into them, but I like that they're there. And I think it makes it more interesting when we're different. I LIKE that people think it's unusual that I'm an engineer. It won't be as fun when there are as many chicks as guys in the technical fields, if that happens. I won't be as special.

And dinner, too: I like when my dinner is paid for. But not just for the money savings; I make a decent living, I don't NEED people to buy me dinner. But it's nice. I think it's nice when anyone pays for anyone else. I would rather buy dinner for both my companion and myself, than split the bill. If I went out to dinner with someone four times, I would far prefer that he (or she) pay twice, and I pay twice, than we split it all four times. It's nice to give, because it makes other people happy. It's nice to receive, because it means someone else cares enough. Paying for my own dinner doesn't really do anything for me. Except get me fed.
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